In fact, the mere notion that you might have pleasurable physical relationships is THE most disgraceful thing a woman in our country could endure because society dictates that our self-worth is somehow directly linked to our untouched hymens.
If you happen to be a sexually liberal female, comfortable with your sexuality and your pleasure, living in Lebanon will be perplexing. Society will demonize and disgrace you for any behavior they believe deviates from conventional gender expectations, which is total bullshit. This judgment will not only come at you from the puritanical elements of society, you can expect it from the very men who are more than happy to plow you a few times a week, too.
I've heard this firsthand from many of my male friends. The setup for sex in Lebanon is brimming with slut-shaming. We all know how it works: They want a woman who is horny and slutty, but only for them. A woman is expected to feel embarrassment if she enjoys sex, and women who have sex β whether with their steady boyfriends or with one-night-stands β are expected to hide that part of them away because it's considered disgraceful.
The idea of people knowing she's no longer a virgin is more terrifying than staying with someone she despises. Historically, women have been trophies for victorious males, and so we've been sort of bred to compete with one another for the attention of males.
But it's not exactly hardwired into our DNA. These very comments are the problem: It's anyone who has chosen to step outside of the very narrow lane that good girls are expected to stay within.
